In the long run, it's not a question of whether they deserve to be forgiven. You're not forgiving them for their sake. You're doing it for yourself. For your own health and well-being, forgiveness is simply the most energy-efficient option. It frees you from the incredibly toxic, debilitating drain of holding a grudge. Don't let these people live rent free in your head. If they hurt you before, why let them keep doing it year after year in your mind? It's not worth it but it takes heart effort to stop it. You can muster that heart power to forgive them as a way of looking out for yourself. It's one thing you can be totally selfish about.
~Doc Childre
So I ask:
Can you forgive?
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November 9, 2008 at 1:48am
Believe not only in yourself, but believe in your friends as well for it is in the eyes of your friends that you discover yourself.
October 12, 2008 at 7:10pm
how true
October 11, 2008 at 5:46am
May you live in interesting times.
upon the individual and the circumstances. for some things yes as everyone makes mistakes. for other things no as some actions are never justifiable and cannot be forgiven.
September 30, 2008 at 8:46am
some would say im too forgiving! its just my nature! i also see forgiving as a way to move on & be happy in life! forgiving isnt forgetting!
September 26, 2008 at 7:52pm
I forgive a lot, I just never forget.() ()
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September 26, 2008 at 2:29pm
I know i should be able to but no, no way can i forgive those who have done me wrong it just aint gonna happen
September 22, 2008 at 12:36pm
Forgetting is hard. To forgive, hold your hand out in front of you (put sides together), think of the person as the one you are holding in your hands. Hold them a little away from you, look at "them" and say what you want to, to them, about them, how you feel and what they did to hurt you. Say all you want to, all you need to, in order to "let them go". Then, when you cannot think of anything more to say, pull your hands to you and say "Go, go to God", and blow on your hands and "see" them going up, up, up to God, to forever be held and handled by HIM.
Then... forget the person, their act of unkindness, and the entire situation. You have just turned it all -- including the person -- over to God.
IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME
September 20, 2008 at 7:57pm
i dont have a problem with forgiving people but every that i do forgive they just turn around and do it again
September 20, 2008 at 2:44pm
I CAN FORGIVE BUT I CAN NEVER FORGET
September 20, 2008 at 11:37am
I try but it is very hard for me